"Rape culture” is a culture in which sexual violence is considered the norm — in which people aren’t taught not to rape, but are taught not to be raped. The term was first used by feminists in the 1970s but has become popular in recent years as more survivors share their stories.
Here, a beginner’s guide to the major elements of rape culture:
1) Anyone can be a rapist
2) The idea of “gray rape”
3) “No means yes”
4) Victim blaming
5) “Slut” shaming
6) Street harassment
7) The myth of preventing rape
8) Anti-rape wear
9) Rape jokes
10) The “friend” zone
11) Pickup artists
12) Fear of reporting
13) False rape accusations
14) The power of celebrity
15) The “promising futures” media narrative
16) Male rape
17) Lack of attention to rape in minority communities
In case you don’t know.
Above is an excerpt from ‘Personhood’ by Lauren Zuniga, which can be viewed here.
Things to remember:
- When no one is validating you, you can validate yourself
- When no one is comforting you, you can comfort yourself
- When no one is kind to you, you can be kind to yourself
- When no one believes you, you can believe yourself
You can give yourself the things that you are looking for externally. You are allowed to be good to yourself.
can we talk about how this fucking pbs show aimed at little kids easily talked about how anxiety is stressful but normal
Ok no but can we talk about this entire episode?
It was called April 9th, and it was actually a response to the 9/11 attacks. It didn’t talk about the attacks themselves, but rather focused on teaching kids to deal with the all of the emotions that they might be feeling as a result. They set up a situation that might evoke similar emotions in children: a massive fire at the school.
Arthur’s dad was in the fire, so (as you can see above), Arthur is constantly worried about his dad’s safety.
Sue Ellen is grieving because her journal, which contained a huge amount of precious memories, was destroyed in the fire. Muffy is confused why she can’t just cheer Sue Ellen up by giving her a new journal.
Buster wasn’t at school that day, and feels confused and guilty that he isn’t sad about the fire like the other kids. He then befriends the school janitor, who has to retire due to an injury that, at his age, is pretty serious.
Binky actually saw the flames, and is constantly traumatized by the event. He doesn’t tell anyone because he feels like he would lose his tough-guy reputation if he admitted that he was scared.
The episode teaches kids that all of these emotions are perfectly normal and natural, that there’s not one right way to feel, and that even if it takes a while, things are going to be okay.
The thing that makes this show so great, in my opinion, is that it knows that kids are intellegent and strong enough to deal with these things if you present them in the right way. It doesn’t hide them, it doesn’t sugar coat them, it just presents them in a way that children can understand and shows them how to deal with them.
“On Periods: Let’s put this shit to bed right now: Women don’t lose their minds when they have period-related irritability. It doesn’t lower their ability to reason; it lowers their patience and, hence, tolerance for bullshit. If an issue comes up a lot during “that time of the month,” that doesn’t mean she only cares about it once a month; it means she’s bothered by it all the time and lacks the capacity, once a month, to shove it down and bury it beneath six gulps of willful silence.”
a metaphor of my life
My grandpa texted for the first time in his life today and he spit straight wisdom out of the keyboard
me as a teacher
Ha! It’s Murphy! 😂
I’M LITERALLY A PIECE OF SHIT WHEN IT COMES TO KEEPING IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE ONLINE OKAY I STILL KNOW YOU EXIST AND I STILL LOVE YOU I JUST AM A PIECE OF SHIT OKAY
Hippo doesn’t have time for this
Hippo got shit to do.
Hippo got swimming to do.
Hippo got shit to do and places to be
ain’t nobody fuck with hippo